Episode 150

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6th Jun 2024

The Spiritual Technology and Wisdom to Transform Lives

Today, I'm sharing a very personal passion and deeply spiritual interest of mine, Kabbalah. I have been studying this transformational spiritual technology and wisdom on and off for over ten years but only recently have dedicated many hours to learning more to help me feel more at peace and purposeful in my life. It has also helped me with countless tools and practices to self-regulate, calm and profoundly accept myself while offering me different perspectives to feel more at peace with where I am right now. I use these shifts in my relationships and friendships, my business, my coaching clients and throughout daily my existence. To say it's been a life-changing shift is an understatement!

And this week's guest is David Ghiyam, one of the teachers at the Kabbalah Centre and someone I have learnt a lot from. He has given over 20,000 hours of personal, spiritual, and entrepreneurial coaching and 1000 seminars utilizing the universal wisdom of Kabbalah. His passion is to bring value wherever he can to help others achieve a fulfilling life. He gave a MasterClass encompassing those teachings at www.KabbalahOne.com.

David also hosts one of the world's top spiritual podcasts, Weekly Energy Boost, with over 2M downloads. David brought his experiences through helping others to co-found MaryRuth's () with his wife MaryRuth, a category leader in vegan liquid vitamins and gummies and a trusted brand among millions of parents for kids' health nationwide.

On today's ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, Kate and David speak about:

  • What Kabbalah is and how we can use it's tool in our daily life
  • How to use the Kabbalah practices as a neurodivergent person
  • Creating more clarity, certainty and self-compassion in our daily lives
  • How to take the pressure off yourself and self-regulate
  • Elevating and expanding our consciousness and creating more positive energy
  • Learning to welcome and appreciate the difficulties in your life
  • Re-framing anxiety in your life
  • How to let go of heavy energy such as guilt and shame
  • Tackling our limiting belief systems about your life
  • Understanding our different life challenges to help us transform, repair and grow

You can find out more about David on his Instagram, @davidghiyam.

Look at some of Kate's ADHD workshops and free resources here.

Kate Moryoussef is a women’s ADHD Lifestyle & Wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity. 

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Transcript
Kate Moore Youssef:

So, hi everyone.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Just before we get started on today's episode, I wanted to let you know about my brand new live coaching summer program.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's happening over June, July and August.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's four different sessions and this is for you.

Kate Moore Youssef:

If you would like to be able to ask me anything, I'm there to do some group coaching, answer questions, give you some guidance, help you feel a bit more empowered, enlightened about your recent ADHD diagnosis.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So this is there for you to help you build your awareness and, and as routines sort of tend to go out the window over summer, these are just ad hoc coaching sessions for a group where you can come in and you can listen to other people ask questions or you can ask questions yourself.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Now, as you know, I'm not a licensed therapist, I am a coach, so I'm not there to give you medication advice, but I am able to help you with lifestyle advice if you are interested in changing careers.

Kate Moore Youssef:

If you're looking for a more spiritual take on the way you live your life with this new chapter of ADHD.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So I'm really looking for forward to this.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's four different sessions, it's 144 pounds for the four live group coaching sessions, which is a really fantastic opportunity to work with me, ask some questions and connect with other like minded people.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So all the information is on my website.

Kate Moore Youssef:

If you just head there, you'll be able to see all the details and this is all going to be live on zoom.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So this is going to be safe, non judgmental space where you can really ask those questions and discuss your concerns amongst people who really do get get it.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I'm hoping to be able to offer you as much practical, emotional and spiritual tools and practices so you can apply straight away to your daily life.

Kate Moore Youssef:

All the details are on my website, ADHD womenswellbeing.co.uk and I really look forward to seeing you then.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And here is today's episode.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Welcome to the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I'm Kate Moore Youssef and I'm a wellbeing and lifestyle coach, EFT practitioner, mum to four kids and passionate about helping more women to understand and accept their amazing ADHD brains.

Kate Moore Youssef:

After speaking to many women just like me and probably you, I know there is a need for more health and lifestyle support for women newly diagnosed with adhd.

Kate Moore Youssef:

In these conversations you'll learn from insightful guests, hear new findings and discover powerful perspectives and lifestyle tools to enable you to live your most fulfilled, calm and purposeful life wherever you are.

Kate Moore Youssef:

On your ADHD journey.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Here's today's episode.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I'm absolutely delighted to bring today's podcast to you.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And this is a conversation that's very close to my heart.

Kate Moore Youssef:

This is a conversation about my own personal learnings and what has been driving me spiritually over the past few months, but really over the past decade.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Because this is a concept that I have been learning about and blending in with a lot of my coaching and my personal kind of growth and expansion.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And we're talking about Kabbalah now.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Today I've got David Geham.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Now David is a world class Kabbalah teacher and his life has encompassed over 20,000 hours of personal, spiritual and entrepreneurial coaching and a thousand seminars given utilizing this amazing universal wisdom of Kabbalah.

Kate Moore Youssef:

If you don't know anything about Kabbalah, it's really worth maybe doing a little bit of research yourself.

Kate Moore Youssef:

But essentially it's a universal wisdom.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's spiritual, spiritual, technology, it's thousands of years old and it blends together so many different concepts that you may know about in different religions.

Kate Moore Youssef:

But really this is not about religion.

Kate Moore Youssef:

This is all about spiritual understanding, growth, expansion, leaning into the light and really fulfilling yourself and your purpose and understanding the why of life, understanding you, understanding why you are here and what you are here to contribute.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So he has got an amazing masterclass which is called Kabbalah 1.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And he also hosts one of the world's top spiritual podcasts called the Weekly Energy Boost, something that I listen to pretty much every week.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And he has a very successful business also that he co owns and he is co founded with his wife Mary Ruth is Mary Ruth's Organics and it's category leader in vegan liquid vitamins and gummies and is a trusted brand amongst millions of parents in the kids health nationwide.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So it's really worth looking into that as well because what they're doing is really forward thinking.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You'll see that David is a human being just like you and I and we really blend the conversation of understanding all this spiritual growth, the wisdom with the understanding of ADHD and later diagnoses in life.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So I really hope you enjoy this conversation.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's definitely a little bit more left field, but as you probably know by now, I'm very into my spirituality and it has really helped me process everything that I've gone through and understand my brain, my nervous system, why I'm here, my purpose, my service, everything.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It means so much to me.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So I really hope that today's episode resonates.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I'm sort of, you know, feeling a little bit nervous about sharing this because this is really my.

Kate Moore Youssef:

A lot.

Kate Moore Youssef:

My personal growth.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And if I didn't have this deep foundation, I know I would struggle.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So if you know someone that is yearning, who is desperate for more sort of spirituality, more understanding about their soul and the deeper purpose in life, this is the episode for them, for you.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I really hope you enjoy it.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Here it is.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So, David Guillaume, welcome to the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I'm absolutely delighted to have you here.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I have listened to you.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I said, you know, before off camera, I've listened to you.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You have literally been in my ears for the past three months because of you.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And listening to Kabbalah 1, Kabbalah 2, and Kabbalah 3.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You've helped me understand this incredible technology, this universal wisdom that has been woven through so of my coaching practice for many years.

Kate Moore Youssef:

But you've helped me solidify it, bring it together.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I wanted to bring Kabbalah to the audience because I believe that it'll connect lots of dots for them.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I know they're spiritually open, they're hungry, they want to know more.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So for someone that is kind of like, oh, I remember Kabbalah from Madonna back in the 90s, but they've not heard much about it since, can you give us a little quick ADHD breakdown, nice and concise, what Kabbalah is?

David Geham:

Yes.

David Geham:

And it's funny.

David Geham:

I started studying 25 years ago, right around kind of when the whole world started to hear about it.

David Geham:

Kabbalah is, best way I can describe it, universal ancient wisdom that explains the secrets of the human soul while we're here, why we go through the challenges we go through, and the big picture of the mission of what to do in our lives to achieve our life's purpose.

David Geham:

And I think what's really powerful about Kabbalah is that Kabbalah explains the why behind everything.

David Geham:

Many people will realize if they decide to go deeper, Kabbalah will pretty much answer every question that we have about life and kind of put it in a logical solution.

David Geham:

I talked to so many people like yourself who have been in the.

David Geham:

In the spiritual world for a long time, have been coaching for a long time.

David Geham:

You intrinsically understand kind of universal law, but what cabal has done for them is kind of put it all together into a system.

David Geham:

I shared with you earlier.

David Geham:

I have people from every religious background and spiritual background.

David Geham:

They follow me or they follow this wisdom, and they say that Kabbalah helps them become a better xyz so Kabbalah is not meant to replace what you believe in, but it will hone in and crystallize all the wisdom you already know.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Yeah, and that's so beautifully articulated because that's really what's happened with me.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Like I've, it's taken me a while to understand about the energy behind things, but what Kabbalah and learning Kabbalah has helped me is just bring it together and understand there's so many different components of it that I can bring in my day to day life.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And that's why I love.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's ancient, we're talking like two, three thousand years old.

David Geham:

Actually it originated originally.

David Geham:

It's the spiritual technology behind Abraham's teachings.

David Geham:

But it explains this wisdom since the beginning of time.

David Geham:

So a lot of, if not most of the major religions and spiritual past that we have today kind of this is the spiritual side of it, whether it's the Old Testament, the New Testament, the Quran, Eastern philosophies.

David Geham:

So you're basically learning the spiritual soul of these wisdoms.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Yeah.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I know we can go much deeper and you know, from listening to some of your classes, sometimes I have to go and lie down afterwards because to allow it to integrate.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I'm still like, there's a lot.

David Geham:

Of content, there's a lot of content, there's a lot to learn here.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Yeah, I feel like I'm good, kind of like 10%.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's, you know, it's gone in.

Kate Moore Youssef:

But I feel, I do feel there is, I keep using the word integrate because there is an integration that I might have to read four books and then listen to some of your seminars and then all of a sudden the penny drops.

Kate Moore Youssef:

But essentially the, this universal kind of new language, this wisdom, this guidance can help us in, in our careers, relationships, parenting, but also from an ADHD perspective, it helps us live day, live life on a day to day basis with more human compassion, more tools, like genuine practical tools.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So we can feel more regulated, we can feel calmer, more accepting of who we are.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And also this kind of permission to ask for guidance, to say actually I don't know what the next step is and to welcome in some help.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Tell me, tell me more about if someone's listening now and they're thinking what the hell, like where do people start?

David Geham:

So I'll start with somebody.

David Geham:

Now we started to talk about it and I actually have been learning a lot more about adhd.

David Geham:

I have so many people close to me in my life who, who have been diagnosed and so we discuss it a lot and What I've come to learn with the limited knowledge that I have and trying to combine it spiritually.

David Geham:

ADHD is a superpower.

David Geham:

It's a superpower that's almost like a live wire of energy.

David Geham:

It's almost like the Creator has bestowed upon you this, this raw, naked energy.

David Geham:

And all we need to do, and I like that you use the word regulate.

David Geham:

All we need to do is create a vessel for this energy.

David Geham:

When you have a vessel for energy, you have miracles.

David Geham:

When you don't have a vessel or you have the wrong vessel for energy, you have chaos and you have bitterness.

David Geham:

So, for example, a good one way of looking at it is imagine a 60 watt bulb.

David Geham:

A 60 watt bulb can shine 60 watts of energy.

David Geham:

But many people in life often crave a thousand watts of energy, right?

David Geham:

So let's say, for example, in relationships, a person says, you know, I want this kind of a soulmate, or I want this kind of a career.

David Geham:

I want to make this kind of money.

David Geham:

And they.

David Geham:

And they talk about something much bigger than what they have.

David Geham:

This represents maybe a desire for a thousand watts of energy.

David Geham:

But their, but their vessel is only a 60 watt bulb.

David Geham:

You bring 1,000 watts of energy into a 60 watt bulb and you have a massive short circuit.

David Geham:

So Kabbalah, actually the word Kabbalah means to receive.

David Geham:

It literally means the vessel.

David Geham:

It's the wisdom of how to create the vessel that holds this energy.

David Geham:

Adhd, or really a lot of the times when we feel overwhelmed, is really just the light of the Creator, this infinite force that wants to be revealed, this infinite force of goodness that wants to be revealed.

David Geham:

And it's asking us to create a vessel for it.

David Geham:

And this is why, if you can, and the technology of Kabbalah helps you do that, if you can build your soul to hold this light, then what is often irritability or anxiousness or stress or doubt or fears transforms into compassion and empathy and certainty and courage and drive.

David Geham:

And that's really what Kabbalah is teaching.

David Geham:

Kabbalah goes further and says, every soul that came to this world has a purpose, to ultimately receive the totality of the light of the Creator.

David Geham:

And this light is like the white light.

David Geham:

When refracted through a prism, you have many colors.

David Geham:

So when you take the light of the Creator and you refract it, you have all the types of pleasures and fulfillment that we're looking for.

David Geham:

So one color is love, one color is prosperity, One color is friendship.

David Geham:

One color is knowing my purpose or health and healing, having children, right?

David Geham:

Everyone's looking for a color.

David Geham:

But instead of chasing after these individual colors, Kabbalah says, go to the source, go to the white quote, unquote, white color, the light of the Creator.

David Geham:

Bind your soul to that energy.

David Geham:

And then the miracles begin to happen.

David Geham:

And people say, you know, when they take what you took, the Masterclass, my Kabbalah 1, people say, like, within couple hours, they shift their focus not from, how do I improve my marriage, or how do I get my kids to be a certain way, or how do I look better, feel better?

David Geham:

Those are just colors.

David Geham:

They start to hone their desire into how do I bind my soul to the light of the Creator?

David Geham:

So Kabbalah explains, well, how do you do that?

David Geham:

You become like the Creator.

David Geham:

So Kabbalah explains, well, what are the qualities of the Creator?

David Geham:

And so one by one, we go through the qualities and we learn how to emulate those qualities.

David Geham:

That's the system, that's the structure.

David Geham:

And as soon as you begin to do that, what seems like doubts, fear, anxiousness, all that energy transforms into stability, courage, power, and certainty.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Yeah, I think it's hard when people hear the words, you know, superpower with adhd, because they've spent a lot of their lives feeling misaligned, that they don't understand why they can't do certain things.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And things have been a huge challenge to them and they can't hold down maybe jobs, careers, relationships.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And when they get the diagnosis, you know, I'm speaking on behalf of many of my community, but also from myself, I understand that finally we kind of go, oh, okay, and we go through a bit of a process of grieving, grieving that this sort of version of us that kind of spent a lot of time, you know, in self criticism, in self doubt, in anger, in this sort of negative energy and where we can move into this sort of light that you're talking about of self compassion, self acceptance, openness, you know, an expansion, like to new opportunities, to growth.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And it's interesting because that is the process that we're seeing, that finally we're able to say, this is us.

Kate Moore Youssef:

This is who we are.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You know, we've been put in a box, we've been put in whatever, if you want to call it maybe a vessel.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I'm not sure if I'm using that in the right way, but we've been put in one vessel that didn't fit us, that didn't suit us, and now we're understanding we can get, you know, moving to a vessel that feels like more soul aligned.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And this is why I Loved Kabbalah for me, because it's helped me.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I've gone through therapy, I've gone through coaching.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I've gone through so much.

Kate Moore Youssef:

For me, Kabbalah was the one thing that just made me go, oh, it's all going to be okay, like, 100%.

David Geham:

I've heard that so many times.

David Geham:

People say, you know, three hours of Kabbalah can be equivalent to 10 to 20 years of therapy.

David Geham:

And, you know, one of the things that everybody should know who's hearing this is the reason why the Creator makes a person a certain way.

David Geham:

And I actually made a post about this that just went bonkers on my Instagram.

David Geham:

This idea of, if you're the black sheep of the family, what does that mean?

David Geham:

I saw that often the person who's considered to be the black sheep is the one who's misunderstood, is the one who doesn't fit in, is the one who's a little different.

David Geham:

And Kabbal explains that the black sheep is the person often that is a soul that is a great soul that is coming down and intentionally not meant to fit in.

David Geham:

If everybody fit in and everybody was normalized, we wouldn't have innovation, we wouldn't have progress, we wouldn't have world leaders, we wouldn't have great CEOs or inventors and geniuses.

David Geham:

We need people who don't fit in.

David Geham:

Now the challenge becomes, when you're given so much power and energy, what to do with it.

David Geham:

And it's interesting, you said something, you said, like, as soon as a person becomes diagnosed, there's this relief almost because there's a level of certainty of, hey, I am different.

David Geham:

Now, I'm going to accept that.

David Geham:

That's number one.

David Geham:

But number two, I'm here to say, not only are you different, but you're different actually in a really good way.

David Geham:

Like, you've been chosen by the Creator to create something big in this world.

David Geham:

Now, the fact that you don't know what that is, that's okay.

David Geham:

That's okay.

David Geham:

We're going to earn that.

David Geham:

We're going to earn that knowing.

David Geham:

But know that you're one of the few chosen people in this world who has the ability and capacity to create something that no one else can create.

David Geham:

Now, now that we know that with certainty, well, how do we get there?

David Geham:

How do we harness this power and this energy?

David Geham:

So the first thing I would say, and it is this word of certainty, Kabbalah explains that when you don't know what's going to happen and you don't know your future, you don't know when you're going to pay your bills, or you don't know if or when you can even get pregnant, or when you'll find your soulmate, or when this family situation that seems so toxic is going to resolve itself.

David Geham:

Like we all live with a not knowing at any moment in our lives.

David Geham:

There's at least one part of our lives that is confusing and in darkness.

David Geham:

And I'm sure our audience can relate to that every time you don't know this is a good sign.

David Geham:

This means that the Creator is creating miracles for you behind the scenes.

David Geham:

The reason why you don't know is you're being asked to put your ego aside so the miraculous energy can go and form and shape this new destiny of yours.

David Geham:

The problem is when we know what to do, when we have complete, quote unquote clarity, we get too involved and we begin to limit the process.

David Geham:

So that is why before every great thing that has ever happened to your life and people can go back and look at it, think of every great thing that's ever happened, it was most likely preceded by a time of great darkness and confusion and difficulty.

David Geham:

And it is by design that you will be put through this confusion, because this great destiny is being formed for you.

David Geham:

Now, when you know that I'm telling you now, right?

David Geham:

I'm not telling.

David Geham:

I'm telling you what the sages are telling you, that you know that your great destiny is being created.

David Geham:

There's a huge relief.

David Geham:

This is analogous to going to the gym.

David Geham:

And when you go to the gym and you have a great workout, maybe a workout you haven't had such a great workout in such a long time.

David Geham:

The next day you wake up and you feel incredibly sore all over your body.

David Geham:

You actually feel weak, you feel tired.

David Geham:

You have symptoms of often body aches, like almost like you have a cold, but you're actually feeling really good every time you touch a sore part of your body.

David Geham:

Because we have trained ourselves that before a great muscle is formed, before a beautiful body comes, it will be preceded by a weak, broken and sore body.

David Geham:

And that's a good sign.

David Geham:

So even biologically, something needs to be broken down before it's rebuilt and rebuilt better than ever before.

David Geham:

And anyone who's listening, you are probably being broken down right now in some part of your life.

David Geham:

You're probably going through confusion and it might even feel personal, and it might even feel like you're being attacked or you're being picked on, or that you've been given, you've been dealt a bad Hand.

David Geham:

This is all by design.

David Geham:

This is all really divine and beautiful.

David Geham:

And your free will here is if you want to speed up the process of the miracle and you want to have less chaos in that process, have certainty.

David Geham:

Have certainty, even if you have to fake the certainty.

David Geham:

Have certainty in what?

David Geham:

Have certainty that the darkness is good.

David Geham:

Tell yourself, I have certainty in the light of the Creator, I have certainty in the light of the Creator, and that I know that everything that the Creator does is good.

David Geham:

I have complete certainty that even though I don't feel good, I will feel good.

David Geham:

I have complete certainty that I already have everything.

David Geham:

That's probably the last one is most important one.

David Geham:

I have complete certainty that I have everything, even though I don't feel I have everything.

David Geham:

Because the law of resonance states that lack attracts lack and abundance attracts abundance.

David Geham:

The more you worry about something, the more you feel you're missing something.

David Geham:

You attract a lot of other vessels out there, a lot of other empty people, a lot of the empty energy.

David Geham:

So before you leave the house, you should meditate that you aren't missing anything.

David Geham:

You already have everything, even though you're going outside of your house to go make money and find a relationship or invest in one and you're looking for something, right?

David Geham:

That's why you're leaving your house.

David Geham:

But the paradox is no, leave your house, go engage with the world, but do so with the consciousness of you're already full, you already have everything.

David Geham:

And then you'll attract more miracles to you, because miracles are attracted to wholeness, not to lack.

Kate Moore Youssef:

That's beautiful.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I think so many people will be listening and resonating because we will have spent a lifetime overthinking, worrying in anxiety, anxious thoughts.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And neurobiologically, we know with an ADHD brain, we are more prone to worrying, rumination, overthinking.

Kate Moore Youssef:

There's a part of our brain that is, is more, I guess, is stronger in that capacity, this negativity bias.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So we're having to override neurobiologically.

Kate Moore Youssef:

But I have used exactly what you said because I've learned from you that it's practice every day.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And that certainty for me has helped so much because I've lived so long in self doubt and this sort of spiral.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So these little things, when I say little, incredibly profound.

Kate Moore Youssef:

But we can just keep working at that every day, honing in on.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I have certainty that even though I don't have the answers now, things are working out in my favor, things are happening behind the scenes.

David Geham:

It's actually a better sign if Things are going well for you.

David Geham:

It's not as good of a sign as when it's not working out for you.

David Geham:

And the other thing is, when you have anxiety, that is because there's so much energy that we call it your surrounding light.

David Geham:

Your light that surrounds you is trying to become your inner light, which is the miracles in our lives.

David Geham:

And the pressure and the anxiousness we feel is, wow, there's this great light that is pushing to be revealed.

David Geham:

Almost like when a woman is about to give birth.

David Geham:

There's this pressure.

David Geham:

There is this, like, this great light wants to be revealed.

David Geham:

This baby wants to be born.

David Geham:

And it's just.

David Geham:

It's interesting.

David Geham:

The greatest, most fulfilling experience for a woman, which is the birth of her child, is preceded by the most excruciating pressure and pain that she will ever feel, because that pain becomes the vessel for that great light.

David Geham:

And so, you know, every time I wake up, if I wake up in the morning, which happens often, by the way, more often than not with anxiety and pressure and stress, I go, what a pleasure.

David Geham:

What a pleasure.

David Geham:

And I have so much anxiety first thing in the morning.

David Geham:

This means that today there's a great light that's meant to be revealed, and you just change that consciousness right then and there.

David Geham:

Instead of ruminating on it, trying to push it away.

David Geham:

Don't push it away.

David Geham:

Don't label it as something bad.

David Geham:

Don't stigmatize anxiety.

David Geham:

Anxiety is an indicator of great light.

David Geham:

Embrace it.

David Geham:

Welcome and say, I love you.

David Geham:

Anxiety.

David Geham:

Give me more anxiety.

David Geham:

In fact, I.

David Geham:

What a pleasure that I have this stress because it's indicative of the greatness of my soul.

David Geham:

And I.

David Geham:

And I welcome the challenges that are going to come.

David Geham:

And I will just handle those challenges one by one, which obviously Kabbalah explains how we do that.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Yeah.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And that's.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Is that, you know, what I'm hearing is there's so much intentionality, you know, every day, every minute, when you've got this consciousness that clearly you have, after so many years of really living this life, that you are obviously human.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You go through all the human experiences that we're all going through.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I know you're a dad, you've got.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You've run a business, a very successful business, and you're coaching and helping so many people through the Kabbalah Center.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You have a lot going on in your life, and you are prone, you know, if you're saying wake, you're waking up with anxiety, and you having to make decisions on behalf of lots of people in your life.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Do you ever Forget that you have Kabbalah and the human side of you just kind of like takes over.

David Geham:

Oh, my God.

David Geham:

Every day.

David Geham:

Because here's what's happening.

David Geham:

Every.

David Geham:

Every day you're going to a new level and you're growing.

David Geham:

And in that new level, you're experiencing a whole new reality, a whole new type of fear, a whole new type of pressure.

David Geham:

Now, every time you complete a reality or you overcome it, which you.

David Geham:

Which Kabbalah helps, you just do that, like daily, as opposed to some people, through pain and suffering, learn lessons through years of work, right?

David Geham:

Kabbalah, you can learn lessons within minutes, days.

David Geham:

It just goes by really quickly.

David Geham:

Every level, you transform.

David Geham:

You receive the abundance, the fulfillment and the wisdom of that level, and then you move up to a new level, which is actually very nice, and it's very fulfilling.

David Geham:

And so every new level comes with its new challenges.

David Geham:

So I probably fail 9 out of 10 times.

David Geham:

The difference may be that every one of my failures, I also get very excited about, because the main challenge, the most negative force that actually attacks most people is guilt and shame.

David Geham:

The problem isn't that maybe you snapped at your spouse.

David Geham:

That's not the problem.

David Geham:

The problem is.

David Geham:

Or you snapped at your children.

David Geham:

Yes, that's a one moment of negativity, like one second of negativity.

David Geham:

The problem is the guilt, the fear, and the shame people carry for hours and days and often years.

David Geham:

Then that vibration is actually disconnecting them from the light of the Creator for an infinite longer amount of time.

David Geham:

I don't know why I feel called to share this, but I once had a coaching session with a woman who was 70 years old, and she told me, I started to speak about the soul's journey around miscarriages and abortions.

David Geham:

And there's a whole lesson I teach about that, and a lot around it is reincarnation.

David Geham:

And a woman needs to know this is not her fault.

David Geham:

In hindsight, if a woman had a miscarriage, for example, it's because the soul volunteered to come and then leave for the process of elevating you as a woman.

David Geham:

And it also means that that soul is meant to come back in some way.

David Geham:

So not to have sadness, guilt, or fear around it, because that actually delays the soul's coming, but to know that if it was once there, it wants to come again.

David Geham:

But the timing was not right, and there was lessons that still needed to be learned.

David Geham:

There's a whole special lesson, secret, a lot of secrets around that.

David Geham:

But this woman came to me and said, you know, 50 years ago, when she was 20 years old, she had an abortion because it just wasn't the right time for her, she said, to have a child.

David Geham:

And ever since then she couldn't have a child.

David Geham:

She said for 50 years she was holding on to that guilt and that shame and thinking something she did wrong.

David Geham:

And I think her religious beliefs also impressed upon her that maybe she's not a good person for doing that.

David Geham:

She carried that energy.

David Geham:

And what I told her is you carrying that energy is actually the most detrimental thing you can do for your soul.

David Geham:

It's not the actions we do, it's how we often feel about them with guilt and shame that create the most damage and break the vessel that holds the light.

David Geham:

And a lot of people's negative feelings in life or sadness comes from something they're holding onto that they think they did wrong or a missed opportunity.

David Geham:

When in reality you need to know you didn't even have free will.

David Geham:

Whatever's happened in the past you were meant to do, it was meant to happen to you.

David Geham:

And the sooner you accept that, let go and get excited about it, you actually move forward and you build a whole new vessel to bring back all that light that you, quote, unquote, may have lost.

David Geham:

So it's about moving forward.

David Geham:

And I'll share one example.

David Geham:

When your child make some mistakes, let's say your child, let's say you have a nine year old boy, he comes home from school and says, mom, you know, I made a huge mistake today.

David Geham:

I was ready, I hit some kid in school, I was really upset and I'm going to now go to my room, punish myself and feel horrible about this for the next three years.

David Geham:

And I'm going to make sure I stay in as much sadness as possible.

David Geham:

So learn my lesson.

David Geham:

Are you as a mom going to be like, well, bravo, son, that is exactly how I want you to be.

David Geham:

Go sit in your room and be depressed for the next three years.

David Geham:

As a mom, you actually would get very scared if your son said that.

David Geham:

Now the Creator feels the same way about us.

David Geham:

When we decide to punish ourselves for years, what would have been the better response by the child?

David Geham:

It would have been, mom, I want to let you know, I wholly own and take responsibility for what I did today.

David Geham:

I feel the pain of it.

David Geham:

I'm using that pain to become a different person.

David Geham:

I'm not going to feel guilt and sadness.

David Geham:

I'm going to go to my room and really think about how to become better.

David Geham:

And I promise you, tomorrow I'm going to be happy.

David Geham:

I'm going to Be different.

David Geham:

And I'm going to go into school as a giver.

David Geham:

Right.

David Geham:

That's what's going to make the parent happy.

David Geham:

It's that responsibility plus extreme transformation and happiness.

David Geham:

So that's how you know you're connecting to the light of the Creator.

David Geham:

If the end result is transformation and happiness, you're in the right place.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Yeah, it's.

Kate Moore Youssef:

This is why I love it so much, because this wisdom is so applicable to so many areas of our life.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And it's so, like we say, it's ancient wisdom.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And it's so perfect for this modern world, this modern world that is throwing absolutely everything at us, you know, at a speed that, you know, many of us can't cope with.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And it helps us move away from the chaos that is external.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I hope for me that, you know, the reasons why I found it so helpful is that it gives me more internal calm.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It helps me have this certainty that everything, no matter if I understand it, I don't understand it's happening for something, some.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Some reason for my soul, my soul's expansion, my growth to also be of service, to be sharing what we're.

Kate Moore Youssef:

What we're learning.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So I'm learning and I wanted to bring this to the audience because it's too big, because, you know, this is all about growth and expansion.

Kate Moore Youssef:

This is about knowledge.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's about like.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Like you say, leaving behind these very dense, heavy energies of guilt and shame, which, again, because we've not understood ourselves for so many years, for decades, we've been, you know, I'm going to speak again from you know, what I hear a lot in the community.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Workaholics.

Kate Moore Youssef:

We've been trying to prove something.

Kate Moore Youssef:

We have been working nonstop.

Kate Moore Youssef:

We've been trying to portray a version of us that maybe isn't authentic.

David Geham:

It's almost like.

David Geham:

It's almost like there's an overcompensation that's trying to happen.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Correct, Exactly.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And so this is now just this kind of.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I can breathe, I can breathe.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I don't have to be in control.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I think that was, for me, that was a big thing.

David Geham:

Everyone feels like they need to do it alone and then they end up working much harder than they need to.

David Geham:

And I'm not saying hard work is not part of the spiritual work.

David Geham:

Right?

David Geham:

I'm not saying discipline is not.

David Geham:

I'm not saying structure is not.

David Geham:

But I'll tell you what's going to bring you 100x return versus not doing, is inviting the Creator's energy into your process, is elevating your Consciousness to be on the frequency and the vibration of the light of the Creator, as Kabbalah explains.

David Geham:

And then everything you do will be prosperous.

David Geham:

Everything you do will be more successful.

David Geham:

Everything you do will yield a bigger and better return.

David Geham:

And then also your capacity to receive is very contingent upon your belief system of what you deserve to receive.

David Geham:

And so everyone has kind of a ceiling on their wealth, because beyond that amount, whether they're conscious of it or not, they feel they don't deserve.

David Geham:

And so that could be a hundred thousand dollars a year.

David Geham:

It could be a million, it could be 10 million.

David Geham:

I know.

David Geham:

Everyone I know it's very easy for them to make money up to that amount.

David Geham:

And then there's chaos and something happens and they start to sabotage.

David Geham:

We see this in relationships, too.

David Geham:

People who are single for a while, but are also saying that they want to find love.

David Geham:

They have these limited belief systems, these competing belief systems, competing desires.

David Geham:

On one hand, I want partnership.

David Geham:

On the other hand, I want freedom.

David Geham:

On one hand, I want to share and give love.

David Geham:

On the other hand, I want to focus on my career because I have so much to do.

David Geham:

So these competing belief systems confuse the universe.

David Geham:

The Creator is like, wait a minute, what do you want?

David Geham:

Because you're throwing a hundred different desires at me.

David Geham:

And they're all competing with each other.

David Geham:

So it's like putting your foot on the gas and having the parking brake on at the same time.

David Geham:

Nothing's gonna move.

David Geham:

So whoever's listening, whatever part of your life is not moving, the first place to look is what are the competing desires and belief systems you have in that area that are clashing with each other and as a result, sending a confused and mixed signal to the world.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I wanted to ask you about a big part of Kabbalah, which is the tikkun, the correction.

Kate Moore Youssef:

However you, you know, you want to describe it, because that's been a big thing for me to understand what a tikhon is, the correction, the repair that we've all been bestowed in life, that we.

David Geham:

We.

Kate Moore Youssef:

We may have several.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And it's almost like that, that.

Kate Moore Youssef:

That challenge that we have to overcome so we can grow and expand more.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You're the professional.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Tell us a little bit about understanding what tikkun is in Kabbalah.

David Geham:

Sure.

David Geham:

When the soul comes to this world, it.

David Geham:

It has a, for lack of a better word, spiritual baggage that we came to this world with.

David Geham:

We brought it from past life.

David Geham:

And by transforming this spiritual baggage, which we call tikkun, by correcting it, we create an affinity of form with the light of the Creator.

David Geham:

And as a result, the miracles come.

David Geham:

And there are layers and layers to this baggage.

David Geham:

What's interesting about the baggage is, let's say, for example, a person has the fear of abandonment, all right?

David Geham:

That's one of the spiritual layers of baggage that they need to overcome in this lifetime.

David Geham:

They will actually, that soul will choose the parents.

David Geham:

Let's start with parents, the parents and the siblings that are most conducive for it to see its abandonment issue and then overcome it.

David Geham:

So the soul might actually choose a more hostile environment or an environment where the parents are separated or emotionally absent.

David Geham:

Not because that's what created the fear of abandonment, but that is what is bringing up to the surface that fear of abandonment which has already been carried from past life.

David Geham:

So it's not that it's the parents fault.

David Geham:

In fact, the parents were chosen as the best instigators to bring it out so that you could transform it.

David Geham:

You also chose the people who hurt you in high school or in college or these relationships that were quote unquote, toxic or emotionally unavailable.

David Geham:

Like all of these people come into our lives.

David Geham:

Our soul is requesting in order to see the tikkun.

David Geham:

Otherwise you can't see it.

David Geham:

When you go to the dentist, he's going to point out the cavity.

David Geham:

He's not going to focus on the 30 or so healthy teeth you have and you know, and applaud you and give you an award for it is going to be like, look, you came to see me to take an X ray of your teeth and I have found a cavity.

David Geham:

And you're not going to be like, well, you know, I'm upset with you that you're just focusing on the bad here.

David Geham:

And let's move on to my good side.

David Geham:

That's not the point of the dentist.

David Geham:

And so life, the way it is energetically designed is it will point at and press on the parts of our soul which are unlike the creator, so that we can see it, feel it, experience it, and transform it.

David Geham:

So I imagine, I don't know what percentage of your audience is in a long term committed relationship.

David Geham:

But one of the things you should know is if you're in it, you're in one, then it's difficult for you.

David Geham:

A big part of this difficulty could be because that soul is there to actually show you where to become stronger and transform inside yourself.

David Geham:

And by you transforming, one of two things will happen.

David Geham:

Either that person will also transform because you're not allowed to energetically.

David Geham:

The creator won't send you someone who's energetically below you or that person will leave.

David Geham:

But either way, screaming at the other person to change is not what's going to work.

David Geham:

The Creator is waiting for you to shift your tikkun, transform your tikkun, thereby shifting your vibration, thereby shifting to a new destiny.

David Geham:

And there's a whole new person waiting for you in that destiny.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Yeah, so this is kind of like we're talking about.

Kate Moore Youssef:

There's a system, and I kind of see it as, like, levels.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And you, you kind of crack that corn, that code, you understand, and you say, right, okay.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Because there'll always be another challenge.

Kate Moore Youssef:

There'll be something else.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And it's not, it's not like we sort of just get to, you know, 15 and be like, we've, we've cracked it all.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Everything we've done.

Kate Moore Youssef:

There's always going to be like you say, these mirrors, these people that come in and show us something that we've not uncovered yet, or show us a challenge or a weakness, which is kind of hard to swallow a little bit because we kind of know.

Kate Moore Youssef:

But then on the flip side, when we spent so much time questioning, why did I get this parent?

Kate Moore Youssef:

Like, why did I get this, this partner?

Kate Moore Youssef:

Why is that friend there, like, constantly pushing on my buttons?

Kate Moore Youssef:

We can flip that script and kind of go, thank you for almost short circuiting, you know, for us to kind of just be like, great, I've got it in my face.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I can either say, right, bring it, bring it on.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Let's, let's, let's kind of really focus in on it and see what we can do to move forward, or we carry on with this spiral, which is, I wonder maybe if it's connected to, like, these generational cycles that we see.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I think going back to the adhd, there's so many generations that haven't understood their neurodivergence.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And there's been chaos and dysfunction through the generations and the same patterns.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And then all of a sudden we go, he's autistic or she's got adhd.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And that is why she or he has not been able to do X, Y and Z.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And there can be past healing.

Kate Moore Youssef:

We can go back and, and forgive our relatives, but we can almost say, right, I understand now.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And we can move forwards and like, we move forwards with more clarity, we move forwards with more certainty.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And this is why we find more inner peace after a diagnosis.

Kate Moore Youssef:

You know, we understand our neurodivergence and we can soften and relax a little bit.

Kate Moore Youssef:

No, no, go ahead.

Kate Moore Youssef:

We've got a Few minutes.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Anything you can share.

David Geham:

Everything you just said is what people will feel as they begin to learn and embark on this spiritual path.

David Geham:

Like that sense of knowing and that calmness, by the way, you're going to see the whole playing field.

David Geham:

I'm not saying it's going to be easy.

David Geham:

Right?

David Geham:

You still got to play ball.

David Geham:

But seeing the whole playing field, turning on the lights, seeing who all the players are and why they're on the field, makes the game of life so much more enjoyable.

David Geham:

The anxiety goes away and now it's just about doing the work that I see in front of me.

David Geham:

Because I think the biggest pain people have is not even knowing what is the work I need to do.

David Geham:

Like, there's so many people who are willing to work.

David Geham:

Yeah, they want, they want to transform, they want to see miracles.

David Geham:

They just don't even know where to begin.

David Geham:

This makes it clear.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Okay, so people are listening right now and there's a curiosity, there's an interest.

Kate Moore Youssef:

This conversation is just like, yes, this is feeding my soul.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Where can people find Kabbalah 1, 2 and 3?

Kate Moore Youssef:

Tell people where they can hear your podcasts.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I feel like there's going to be a lot of people that kind of want to hear from you.

David Geham:

Sure, sure.

David Geham:

First thing I'll tell everybody is, you know the work I do with Kabbalah and spirituality, I do it all for charity.

David Geham:

I do not monetize this.

David Geham:

This is all 100%.

David Geham:

For the last 25 years, I've been studying.

David Geham:

For 20 years I've been teaching.

David Geham:

I think about eight years ago, they decided to professionally record my most popular course, which is called Kabbalah 1, which is basically 10 hours, 10 one hour sessions that explain all the secrets to life.

David Geham:

So we cover everything on relationships, life's purpose, why your souls in this world, emotional regulation, overcoming doubts, overcoming fears.

David Geham:

Like so much is packed in that one course.

David Geham:

They filmed it as a master class and I've asked that it would be a pay what you can model.

David Geham:

So you can even pay $1.

David Geham:

You can pay whatever you want.

David Geham:

And the goal here is that financially no one is impeded from being able to connect to spirituality.

David Geham:

And you just go to kabbalah1.com.

David Geham:

So it's K A B B A L A h o n e.com and I'm sure there'll be posted everywhere.

David Geham:

The other thing is I have a podcast every week I do with my co host.

David Geham:

It was an amazing teacher.

David Geham:

It's called Weekly Energy Boost.

David Geham:

You can find it on, you can find it everywhere.

David Geham:

Find it on Apple and Spotify.

David Geham:

And you can also follow me on my Instagram.

David Geham:

I would say those are the three places to start.

David Geham:

Super simple.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I can honestly attest to the Cabalawan changing people's lives because it did for me.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And I'm still hungry and I'm still yearning.

Kate Moore Youssef:

There's so much more I wanted to talk to you about.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I wanted to talk to you about the astrology because that for me is huge.

Kate Moore Youssef:

It's always something that I've been so interested in and how powerful that is.

Kate Moore Youssef:

The lunar energy, again, a huge part of everything that I do.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Like being like, you know, guided by the moon and what's going on.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And today we have a new moon in Taurus and that's really powerful.

Kate Moore Youssef:

So I feel like this is just.

Kate Moore Youssef:

We're just.

David Geham:

Your audience likes this.

David Geham:

Let them write to you and say, you know, I'm happy to come back.

David Geham:

Actually, this always happens.

David Geham:

We just barely scratched the surface.

David Geham:

I've come on two, three, four, five times on people's podcasts because if the audience appreciates it and it's really helping you, you know, I'm happy to come back and go deeper into more secrets.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Perfect.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I'm going to hold you to that, if that's okay.

Kate Moore Youssef:

David, thank you so, so much.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I really appreciate your time and your energy and everything that you're doing because it's life changing for so many people around this world and it's very much needed.

David Geham:

Thank you for having me.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I really hope you enjoyed this week episode.

Kate Moore Youssef:

If you did and it resonated with you, I would absolutely love it if you could share on your platforms or maybe leave a review and a rating wherever you listen to your podcasts.

Kate Moore Youssef:

And please do check out my website, ADHD womenswellbeing.co.uk for lots of free resources and paid for workshops.

Kate Moore Youssef:

I'm uploading new things all the time and I would absolutely love to see you there.

Kate Moore Youssef:

Take care and see you for the next episode.

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